A Daily Reminder

 God created you to be the most incredible balance between soft and strong. And you have the incredible ability to be so many things to so many people. But sometimes being a friend, a wife, a mother, a sister, a partner in Christ can truly be exhausting.  

Because your Father in Heaven has gifted you with talent, created you with compassion and loves you beyond measure take solace in the Lord’s word and promises.  

Something I’ve learned over the years is sometimes I strive in pain. Not because I want pain but because I know unless I find a way to do that (strive in pain, disappointments, setbacks) there will always be a false illusion that once I get to where I’m going or accomplish what I’m working towards “I’ll be happy.” But if you can’t find happiness in the ugliness then you’re not going to be able to find/see it in beauty either. 

Dating with a Purpose

 With all the things we do in life with purpose, for a reason, with an end goal, then why not date with a purpose? One important principle that dating operates on is purpose. The million dollar question when it comes to purposeful dating is why do we date? At the end of the day , the purpose of dating is to make a clear pathway to marriage. So dating with a purpose is essential if you want to find someone to create and sustain a healthy relationship with. Hopefully the end goal of your dating is marriage, but dating is necessary to be a bridge to get you to your end goal. 

Although the end goal of dating is marriage that doesn’t mean that after one date or the first person you go out on a date with, that you have to marry that person. Dating is more like interviewing someone for the most important role as your partner. That does not mean showing up to your date with an application and interview questions (because that’s a surefire way for that date to end quickly 😁) but you should have an idea of what you want. Dating shouldn't be for temporary companionship to alleviate loneliness or to meet physical needs. Dating takes you to the next level towards something greater and better - a God-honoring, purpose-fulfilling partnership.

Here's some freebies for my single ladies that helped me when I was dating:

1. Know what you want. (what are your relationship intentions)

2. Know who you want. (have a general idea of what you want in a partner, but don't be so picky that you miss a great possibility)

3. Create a deal breaker list. (just something to keep you accountable for the things you will not tolerate; i.e. someone with a history of violence)

4. Cultivate relationship awareness. 

5. Cultivate self-awareness. (finding and maintaining a healthy relationship is close to impossible if you lack self-awareness)

6.Don't be attached to the outcome. (take your date(s) one step at a time)

Lastly, this should probably be a freebie... but make yourself available girlfriend. As Christian women we hear other women say "they are waiting on God to send them their husband" or they quote Proverbs 18:22 "a man that finds a wife, finds a good thing." While I'm not debating the scripture what I am asking is where is that man going to find you, or where is God going to send him? If you are just at home or work then you'll probably be waiting a long time my friend unless he's a delivery driver. Why you wait on the Lord.... make yourself available to be found. Be open to "unconventional" ways to meet people. I'm not talking about anything that causes you to sin when I say unconventional but just be real with yourself, you might not meet your future husband at church. My husband and I met through a dating website. So get out there girlfriend, have some fun, and date with a purpose.

Check out the Dating with a Purpose episode on the Embrace Your Diva Apple Podcast. 

Self Care is Essential

 Being successful (and I’m not talking about just women who are entrepreneurs; mothers, students, daughters, friends, etc...)often comes with a massive to do list. As women, we do so much for others and we simply do not put ourselves first often enough. But without giving our body, our mind and our overall self a break, and taking care of us, we cannot possibly be successful in every role we find ourselves in. Take time for you! Not just on the weekend, but everyday of the week. Unfortunately I cannot guarantee that everyday will be like a day at the spa, but setting aside 15 minutes a day to do something for yourself is OK and beneficial. Believe me you are much more useful, successful and lovable at 100% than you are at 0%.

So what are some things you can start to do to take care of yourself and show yourself some love? And this is by no means in any particular order.

1. Value Alone Time

Alone time can allow you to recharge and re-calibrate. It gives you opportunity to be with yourself and reflect on who you are, what you want and what you're doing or not doing. You can meditate, reflect in gratitude or even pray but whatever you do make time for this.

2. Eating Healthy

Trust me, I need to work on this one too but I've also learned not to punish myself if I have a mini cupcake or a slice of cheesecake sparingly. I mean really... it's not the end of the world. But it is important to nourish our bodies with good, healthy foods. I meal prep to make it easier for me and I make sure not to grocery shop when I'm hungry. Remember those 5 basic food groups you learned about as a child: breads/grains, fruits, veggies, milk/dairy, and lean meat/fish. Well they are still good for providing a well balanced diet.

3. Sleep

I know you might be saying to yourself.... "like well duh" but believe me sometimes we take a good night sleep for granted or maybe you overdo it and sleep the day away. Do you know that your sleep and your mood go hand in hand. Have you ever not gotten enough sleep and just went to work or school or had a simple conversation with joy and enthusiasm? Chances are the answer to that question is no! Good sleep makes you feel happy, healthy and strong. Get you a good sleep mask, throw on some ocean sounds (whatever works for you even no music/sounds), pray and close those eyes girlfriend.

4. Treat Yourself

Think about it, what does that look like to you? I'm a working wife and mother who also volunteers at my church (my life is not like The Real Housewives of... no disrespect) but it's not. So treating myself sometimes is taking a nice relaxing bubble bath with my candles and a book at the end of the day. There are lots of ways to treat yourself. You can buy yourself something (even if it's a latte at Starbucks), get a massage, eat that piece of cheesecake (don't worry it's not the end of the world), or take a relaxing bubble bath. I'm not talking about things that need to be grandiose or expensive, I'm just talking about making yourself a priority and treating yourself to something nice. I mean why not, you deserve it.

5. Exercise

No, that is not a foul word. Your physical being is a part of your self-care. I only, just like you have this one body. It's not like when we get tired of the one we are in, we get to pick out a new one. We only get one and we have to take care of it. I'm not telling you to become a gym rat but I am encouraging you to move a little so you can build a stronger, healthier you. 15-30 minutes a few times a week.

There are many more ways to incorporate self-care into your daily routine and make it habit, but these are just a few. If you have some suggestion than please share, let's encourage one another.

As God’s daughter He considers you precious, worthy, and valuable. Do you see yourself that way? Is you value and worth found in running yourself ragged? Or always saying “yes?” Absolutely not! It’s a balance that comes from taking care of yourself mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically. While serving others out of the overflow of your heart. So find ways and take some time each day to show a little bit of love to yourself.

Jesus and Java

 God does His work on this earth with ordinary women (like you and me) in our ordinary-everyday situations. And He can take an ordinary situation, with ordinary women, kick it up a notch and do some extraordinary things.

Not a day goes by that we're not in need of God's grace and peace. Every morning we need His Spirit to fill us again, to strengthen us for what's ahead. Every day we need a fresh word that He speaks to our hearts, to help keep our focus on what's more important. Trying to run this race of life without Jesus will do nothing but drain us dry.

And the week can be crazy believe me with deadlines and schedules trying to get everything done before the weekend. And we can sometimes lose focus of what's most important. But even for those times... His grace is there. He waits for us. His patience and His peace never run dry.

Jesus covers our past, secures our future and gives us all that we need for this day too. He promises that as we come to Him, and allow His truths to nourish and saturate our lives, we will be satisfied. We will have all that we need to live abundantly and freely in this life. So grab that cup of Java girlfriend and a whole lot of Jesus and make today an amazing day.

The Road to Freedom: Surviving Depression

 Another sleepless night, no desire to get out of the bed and get breakfast made before I had to be out the door to get my daughters to school, get myself to school and then to work after class. This had been the story of my life for the last 6 months, it was like Groundhog Day or being on a hamster wheel that I just couldn’t get off of. 

I knew something was wrong and I knew I didn’t want this to be life forever but I had no desire to put forth the effort for change and I didn’t even know where to begin if I did. I was battling with depression and didn’t know how to cope with everything in my life. Rewind to six months prior: I was in college, working a full time job, balancing home, school, and work life pretty successfully I thought. But on October 21, 2003 things changed drastically. I lost my significant other in a tragic event, and was now a 21 year old single parent trying to figure out how to do life, manage time and keep it all together. The truth is I couldn’t. Everything that made sense before,  was now foreign and a challenge to figure out.

Fast forward six months to where I’m still trying to get off of this hamster wheel. I was sad all the time, I didn’t sleep, didn’t eat, I lost a lot of weight and was down to 102 pounds. When I didn’t have to be in class, at work or being mommy to my daughters I spent most nights just crying. I needed something and that something ultimately was Jesus!

See God wants to help us as His daughters to live free from depression. He wants to fill us with His joy, hope and expectation of good things for our lives. Trust me if you are battling with depression right now, it’s not an overnight process. It took a lot of prayer, time, effort, energy and vulnerability to get to a place of freedom, joy and peace. But I had to take the first step and make a decision. I know as Christians we shy away from the subject or even the idea of depression. We sometimes forget our sisters in Christ are human just like us. Created by God with feelings and emotions and deal with a plethora of challenges at times in life. 

Depression is real and God desires you as his daughter to be whole: that’s all 3 parts that make you up: your body, spirit and soul. Greater is He that is in you, then he that is in the world (1John 4:4) The Great One is inside of you and that is the difference between you and the world. You have a relationship with the One that can heal and restore you. Now I understand that you might not feel like it today and that’s okay… But just know when you are ready to make the decision, God will be there to see you through and help you pick up the pieces and reclaim your purpose. 

You are God’s beloved daughter. You were created with dignity and strength. You are beautiful , fierce and special. You have purpose, influence and a future. You are an overcomer and depression does not have to rule your life. NO MATTER what you are going through, God is always willing and ready to help you get through. He will take your pain and turn it into something great. 

You are not alone girlfriend and if you are experiencing depression or feel you may be then I encourage you to reach out to a counselor, therapist or social worker. If that seems intimidating then reach out and talk with a friend, pastor or family member you can be honest and vulnerable with. 

I have chosen you and have not cast you away: Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand. (Isaiah 41:9b-10) Remember you are not alone and you are loved. 💋

God-Defined

What or who defines you? Do you want to be defined by the world, pop culture or social media? Or do you want be defined by God? As young ladies and women we can allow ourselves to get caught up in the world around us; what’s hip, cool or even the “in” thing. We try to emulate what we see on tv, in magazines and/or celebrities we follow. But God not only designed you for a unique purpose but to be uniquely you. Following trends I promise will leave you empty, but following God will never leave you empty but fulfilled. “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” (Ephesians 2:10) Not only is a “God-defined” woman made by the Creator Himself, but He already has prepared a way for you to walk in. 

The verb define according to Webster’s Dictionary means to make up or establish the character of. How exhausting to try and keep up with social trends and take it one step further and try to be defined by those social trends too. I’m sure you’ve heard of the ever-present need to “Keep Up with the Joneses.” Well the problem with this is that there is no Jones family to keep up with. You can't keep up with an existential standard that doesn't exist and women will find themselves much like a hamster running on the wheel of life, chasing some impossible standard, that will leave them forever going in circles. Social trends change, pop culture changes, people even change. But God does not change, “Jesus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and forever.” (Hebrews 13:8)

A God-defined woman does not need anyone to prove her worth. She laughs without fear of the future. She forgives easily. She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She is clothed with strength and dignity. This is who you are as a young lady or woman when you allow God to define you and not the world. It is who you are in Christ. It is the way He chooses to see you, even when you don’t feel this way. If you lose faith today, I want you to know that you are not defined by people’s opinions, by social trends, pop culture or even your own opinion. You worth is far more than rubies because of the One person who died in your place to win your heart. 

Woman of worth

It's important as women to live our truth but in that we must not use our past as a crutch. Your past, your trials, your truth, your story... makes you uniquely you and brings hope to other women that they too can rise above situations, obstacles and people. So be unapologetic of who you are, if who you are is a woman of purpose, inspiration and worth. Because you are NOT broken, you are just a beautiful mosaic of battles you've won.

Women on a Mission

Women are changing the world. We're breaking barriers in the marketplace and stepping into leadership roles that are redefining our culture. The words of Proverbs 31 formulate a beautiful and timeless poem about a woman on a mission with God-inspired characteristics. She demonstrates the qualities that are God honoring in the areas of work, faith, and family. Let's learn what it takes to be women filled with strength and dignity. This is a great opportunity to study the word of God together with some other dynamic, amazing women. 

This devotional study will begin on Monday, February 26,2018. If you are interested in participating then please email me your email address so you can be added to this online devotional. Peace, love, and blessings to you. #womenonamission #encourageyoursister #embraceyourdiva #proverbs31

Woman of Purpose

Well we are already at the end of the first month in 2018 and I just wanted to take a moment to send my love, encouragement and prayers to you and your family for the New Year. I pray that this year is a year of "Greatness" for you. Great opportunities, great connections, great relationship building, great in prosperity (and NO that's not always financial) and greatness in drawing closer to God. God is going to be stretching those that are willing to allow God through the power of the Holy Spirit to stretch their faith, their commitment and their understanding. That alone is encouragement for me. I pray for you this year that you continue to not only live a holy life but draw closer to God through prayer, fasting, communion and His word. 'I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God." (Romans 12:1-2 NKJV) The only acceptable worship is to offer ourselves completely to the Lord and not assume an outward expression that does not reflect what is really on the inside. You have the living God inside of you and I pray that through your surrender and submission to His will this year that the blessings pour forth and He fill your spiritual cup to the brim to where it will overflow and you will be a blessing to others that you encounter.
This year make it a point to be a Woman of Purpose. A Woman of Purpose is a woman who is intentional about the relationships she develops, the ideas she gives attention to and the balance of her multiple life roles. She is woman who knows her Creator, spends time with Him and follows His direction. A Woman of Purpose does not allow outside circumstances, situations or people to consume too much of her time without a clear defined ending goal. God gave me an acronym for the word purpose:


P- Prayer
U- Unction (Holy Spirit)
R- Royal and Renew
P- Progress
O- Obedience and Overcomer
S-  Surrender and Submission
E- Edify and Encourage


Let us in all that we do this year and beyond press towards not only becoming a Woman of Purpose but a woman of intent, character and influence as well. Because your influence and the God in you is what is going to open doors for you this year.
Father God, I come to You right now lifting up the woman who is reading this right now and I pray Your grace, mercy and love will continue to fill her life. I thank You Lord that she is not burdened down with depression, anxiety, jealousy, anger or unforgiveness but that You have created in her, through Your precious Holy Spirit a clean heart and have renewed in her a right Spirit. I thank You for the doors that will be opened in her favor this year. I thank you for increase, witty ideas, divine encounters and good health. I thank You for Your Holy Spirit always being encamped around her and her family and I pray for safety and for no hurt, harm or danger to come to her. I pray God that You continue to show Yourself not only as a present help in her life but a constant friend. May she not lean to her own understanding but in all her ways may she acknowledge You as You direct her paths. For the unknown, unforeseen and uneasy circumstances that arose in her life in 2017 may You give her the peace that surpasses all understanding and may she cast her cares upon You for You care for her. As she draws closer to You this year may You draw closer to her. I thank You Father God that she not only knows You better this year but she knows who she is in You. I thank You that she is becoming a woman of purpose, destiny, and influence and it is You who will make her name great. Every thought, charcter and word that is not like You or that has hindered her progress I cast it down and tell it to be removed from her life right now in the name of Jesus. I pray this prayer with a cheerful and thankful heart Lord because we should always enter Your gates with thanksgiving and Your courts with praise and because You not only hear the prayers of the righteous but You have given us the power to speak Your word and for it not to return back void, but for it to accomplish everything that we send it out to do. So I know and I believe it by faith that You are already orchestrating great and wonderful things in this woman's life. so I praise Your holy name and I give You the highest praise in Your Son Jesus' precious name I pray and know that it is happening. In Jesus' name,


Amen.


God bless you woman of God as you come to know, walk out and embrace your purpose. 💋

Diamond in the Rough

Ladies you must trust the process that the Lord is taking you through at this time in the stage of your life. But above trusting the process we must trust the Lord. One of my favorite scriptures that brings me back to a place of remembrance and acknowledging that God is the one that gives me wisdom and strength and power to move forward each day. "Trust the Lord with all of your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths. (Proverbs 3:5-6) You have been blessed to have a brand new week ahead of you to slay goals, make progress, sweat more, gripe less, and ditch the fear.... Ready! Set! Go! 

Vision Board Masterclass

Focused! Intentional! Purposeful Living! What goals are you preparing for, reaching for, and pursuing for 2018? You don't want to miss out on this event to jump-start your new year. An opportunity to connect and collaborate with other women and build your brand, yourself, and your vision. Write it and make it plain. All materials supplied and light refreshments served. #vision #visionboard #masterclass Make sure to register before it's too late Vision Board Masterclass

Life after Death

 

Back to Basics Conference. Message title: "Life after Death" When we experience a "death" in our life, how do we get back to living? Death is not always physical but an extreme loss such as a miscarriage, loss of a job or position, a divorce, or a loss of purpose can be like a death. What can you do to move forward and live life intentionally? #letgo #lifeafterdeath #backtobasics #purposedriven #moveforward #embraceyourdiva

 

 

Be Fabulous!

Let go of who you think you're supposed to be and embrace who you are. When you learn to embrace who you are, that's when God will take you further than you can imagine. If you try to be who you think you should be or what others think you should be, then you'll lose your authentic self. Embracing who you are can be frightening, but the benefits of doing so far outweigh the consequences of hiding your truest self. And why hide??? Your Father in Heaven already knows all about you, and he cares for you and loves you greatly. He created you on purpose for His purpose, and pleasing Him brings a far greater revelation of peace and comfort than pleasing people. Living authentically requires a certain degree of vulnerability, both which take an immense amount of courage. But that fabulous thing is, that it's not impossible. Establish your identity - know who YOU are in HIM. Shift your self talk - "Death and life are in the power of the tongue..." (Proverbs 18:21) Stop putting yourself down and please eliminate "I Can't" from your vocabulary. Take aligning action - Put some power behind your words. Actions and words go together. Let go of what others think of you - You are "fearfully" and "wonderfully" made and you need to know what God thinks about you. So take time each day to remind yourself of all the things and ways that make you who you are, and begin to embrace all the FABULOUS parts of you! 💋

Priceless

She is it! You are the best of both worlds. You are an ambitious, motivated, focused Queen. But you embrace you femininity. You have a soft submissive side, with a heart ❤ of gold. You are affectionate, compassionate, and wise. You are walking in who God created you to be. You are it! You are the best of both worlds! #ownit #embraceyourdiva 💋 #unapologeticallyyou #priceless #youareit 

God is still writing your story...

Our lives are full of majestic moments, beautiful views, scary twists and turns that at times catch us off guard. We can try and imagine what's coming, we can try to plan our every step and stop but our lives are not our own. Our life is found in Jesus who is the Author and Finisher of our faith. Who can write our story better than we could ever imagine or think. Give God the reverence due to Him and stop trying to control and write your own story, but relinquish the pen to your Heavenly Father who knows exactly what you have need of. Keep the faith as your story is written, always remembering that our God is a great author of story lines. One plot point that we find surprising and bitter might be there to make something in the future that much sweeter. So stay encouraged in your passions, desires, and dreams because He who has promised is faithful and He will give you the desires of your heart ❤ and make all your plans succeed. (1Thessalonians 5:24; Psalm 20:4) #trusttheprocess #beencouraged #Godisfaithful #embraceyourdiva

Falling in love with Jesus

We've all heard the song at one time in our life.... Falling in love with Jesus as this line repeats, it ends with Was the best thing I've ever, ever done. But why is falling in love with Jesus so wonderful? For some women when they hear the word "love" it makes them cringe, or roll their eyes or maybe even cry. And that's probably because they have had their heart broken, or have been abused or mistreated or have been shown a false idea of love. But the love that your Heavenly Father has for you is an unconditional love. A love without borders, without condemnation. God's love is personal. He knows each of us individually and loves us personally. His is a mighty love that has no beginning and no end. Why does God loves us? It is because of who He is: "God is love." When you have someone who loves you and cares about you and is enamored by you, you can't help but want to give that love back. Falling in love with the Lord is the greatest romance. Searching Him is the greatest adventure. Finding Him is the greatest achievement, and being with Him is the greatest source of happiness. So I guarantee, spoken from my own personal experiences that falling in love with Jesus is the best thing you could ever do.

Support Houston

Embrace Your Diva Ministries has teamed up with the American Red Cross to send our support to our brothers and sisters in Houston, Texas who have been tragically affected by Hurricane Harvey. If you would like to support in these efforts then please visit the Crowdwise page for Support Houston. Even if you only give a $1 that helps. So connect with Embrace Your Diva Ministries and the American Red Cross to support Houston!

Crowdwise Support Houston Page

You are that Woman

Sometimes as women we battle with our identity. Who we are, what's our purpose, why we aren't like someone else. We compare, we compete, and we critique every little thing about ourselves and about each other. But what if we learned to embrace and accept who God created us to be. How wonderful it is to know your worth and not only believe but BE all you were created to be. You may be Single, Married, Divorced, Widowed. A Single Parent, A Student, maybe you don't have any kids at all... But one thing that's common is that You are a Woman! Created on purpose for a purpose! So walk in confidence because You Are That Woman!

Back to Basics Conference

Ladies, ladies, ladies..... Mark your calendars for a dynamic event coming October 14, 2017. What will be deposited into your heart and spirit during this amazing event is to great and profound to put into words. All I can say is that you need to be there! Ladies come and meet a new sister and be blessed. Get your tickets at www.weaimforsuccess.com I hope to see you there!

You Got This

And one day she discovered that she was fierce, strong, confident, and full of fire. That not even she could hold herself back because her passion burned brighter than her fears. Don't be afraid of storms because God is teaching you how to sail your ship. #keepcalmanddivaon #embraceyourdiva 💋 #mightyinHim